News flash. There is more than one way to love people. Not everybody that crosses your path is supposed to be or going to be a romantic connection. Be aware of this if you look at things like that. There is no need to chase that or become fixated on that codependency. You WILL lose yourself. Go inward and access yourself in other possibilities with those that cross your path and watch how what is for you just comes in with ease. It might not be there to serve you in a romantic capacity! So escape the illusory pattern that you are putting in your own mind. Think about that. Consider that.
Men and women need to learn how to do platonic relationships better for starters and start getting along. Get out of your self-interest and lean in more toward your self-purpose. Do you know what that is? Do you know what it is that you are wanting to offer of yourself to the world and people around you? We are all very gifted with purpose. Show yourself in that righteousness and celebrate that shit.
We are here to serve one another in so many different capacities! I mean, are we adults here yet or what boys and girls? Surrender and let go. Get out of your head and your ego trying to force lower vibrational, rat race shit if you are feeling stuck. All that will do is create more set backs in whatever it is that you DON’T want. Dig deeper. Raise your awareness/vibration. This is what it means to do that. It isn’t cliche. Master yourself first. That is the only way you will have anything of meaning to offer the collective. Cultivate the interpersonal connections around you that come in . Establish friendships-not situationships. There is more than one way to love people.
I am saying this because fatal attraction killed the cat. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE romance, I do not think men are all pieces of shit or that all women are crazy. Both are conditioned behaviors. Choose and pave your path for something else.
I want all the ridiculously adorable love stuff. But I do inner work and have isolated myself in that to figure out who I am, what I want and what type of dynamics and ideals I want to put my energy into. For me, you can’t rush awesome. I know exactly what I want and am not budging on that romantically. It takes more than in and out, fly by night, instant gratification through self-indulgence on repeat or on a hamster wheel to penetrate the soul to something more beautiful and fulfilling.
I strongly sense that many people are in conflict romantically. I am not where I want to be in that sense but at least I have my arms wrapped around that in acceptance. It’s ok! Stop running from yourself to pass and fill your time with stuff that is ultimately meaningless to your bigger picture. Don’t play small time with yourself. You are not alone. Sit and be grateful for this time and for whatever lesson you are supposed to taking from the universe. Self-reflection leads to self-actualization. Exercise that and follow your own lead there and in that.